Being the parent of a teenager isn’t a walk in the park. There are all sorts of things to worry about not to mention this can be a time of extreme rebellion in their lives.
Some parents are hopeless when it comes to getting their teenager to talk to them and open up about what’s going on their lives. For some parents, it can feel like talking to a brick wall every time that they try to engage their teenager. However, rest assured that if this is your situation it is more common than you think. There are a variety of reasons why your teenager may be shutting you out. Here are some of the most common reasons and what you can do to remedy them.
Drugs And Alcohol
Unfortunately, this is an age in your child’s life where you will need to start considering their exposure to outside influences like drugs and alcohol pressure at school. Whether they are taking drugs already or considering taking them, they may not feel comfortable discussing this with you.
When your teenager fears you may disapprove or scold them, they can shut down completely. Rather than judging them, even though you may have all the reason in the world, try to be a resource which they can go to for anything.
The most dangerous thing that you can do when it comes to drugs and alcohol in their lives, is making them feel like they can’t talk to you about it. While you may not approve of it, you should certainly be willing to talk about it. Curiosity is normal and should be put on the table.
Hormonal Changes
Teenagers are in a process of transition between children and adult. Their bodies are changing and hormone levels are high. When hormones are running high in the body this can cause emotional fluctuations and mood swings.
Try to understand that this is normal. If they require more space than normal this could be merely a sign of their body chemistry undergoing a change.
Social Pressures
School at this age can come with all sorts of social pressures. Not only can it be a challenge to find their place amongst their peers, but they may be struggling with identity issues.
Try to show them that they have a strong foundation and support system at home. This way they will carry this confidence into the outside world.
You Need More Quality Time
One of the best ways to get your teenager to open up to you is to spend time together. This can be anything from sitting on the couch watching a show to doing something more interactive like playing a game or sport.
The more time you spend together the more they will trust and feel inclined to communicate.