In this modern age, many couples no longer make the traditional choice of waiting to have kids until after marriage. It is not uncommon for couples to have kids before deciding to take their vows. Having little ones around while trying to plan for such a big event, however, can have its challenges.

Between ordering cakes and creating registries parents can find themselves changing diapers and stepping on Legos. Finding the balance between creating the wedding of your dreams and also taking care of your kids can be a challenge. Here are some of the best tips for making sure that you can do it all successfully with little ones in the picture.

Simplify

One of the most important things that you can do for yourselves as a couple planning a wedding is to simplify the event. When you begin to overcomplicate and stress over tiny details then you will find that you tension is much higher. Planning such a big event is stressful enough as it is. When you add kids into the equation, it can quickly become a recipe for high-stress levels.

Try to choose the path of least resistance when it comes to your wedding planning. Although you may have dreamed about the perfection of this monumental day since you were a child, it’s important to choose your battles. Go for the options which are the most simple to achieve and promise the easiest path to get there. You will thank yourself later.

Make Them Feel Involved

Making your children feel like they are a part of the planning process can give them a sense of importance and encourage them to feel less frustrated. When you are going through the wedding planning process it can take up a lot of your attention. Making your kids feel like they are a part of the process and like they have a say in the details can make them less frustrated about you giving your attention towards the planning.

Some ideas for helping them feeling involved are choosing decorations together, getting their input on venues, and having them stamp invitations.

Be Realistic About Costs

Rather than putting pressure on yourself about having the best possible options which cost the most amount of money, it is important to remember that you are also a parent and your budget can be limited.

Choose options which may not be ideal but are perfectly fine and enjoyable. For instance, instead of opting for a destination wedding which could prove to be a costly endeavor, settle for getting married in your own city or town. Let’s say that you are from Denver. If that is the case, then instead of flying overseas where only a few close relatives and friends are able to attend, hold your event at party venues in Denver where everyone can be involved.

Keep in mind that it can also help you to afford whatever else you need for your family life. Remember that breaking the bank in order to be able to have the wedding of your dreams may only stress you out financially in the bigger picture. So, refrain from taking such steps which could potentially have negative aftereffects. After all, you would not want to start your new life under financial stress or on a loan.