When your daughter was small, you may have sat staring at her for hours, wondering what her life would be like and what kind of woman she would turn into when she got older. You may have even dreamed about the happiness she would feel when she fell in love and met the one she would later marry and spend the rest of her life with. So when that day finally comes, the excitement you feel might border on uncontrollable. However, there’s still a lot that needs to get done before the big day arrives. So to help ensure you’re able to be there for your daughter and help your dream wedding become a reality, here are three tips for helping your daughter plan her wedding.
Know Your Traditional Responsibilities
While traditional doesn’t have to be followed exactly, knowing what the Mother-of-the-Bride’s traditional role and responsibilities are might help you get a better grip on the part you’ll play in this whole event. According to Jolene M. Bouchon, a contributor to Brides.com, your jobs include things like support during shopping, finding family heirlooms, keeping track of the bridesmaids, being a point of contact for guests or vendors, playing hostess, and more. While this might sound like a lot, you can share or delegate these responsibilities as you and your daughter see fit.
Allow Her To Have Her Own Priorities
Like was mentioned above, you may have dreamed about your daughter’s wedding even before she did. Because of this, it can sometimes be hard for mothers to let go and give their daughter the freedom to make her own choice about things, especially if you’re helping to pay for the wedding. But according to Taylor Seely, a contributor to USA Today, it’s important that you’re able to remember that this day is about her and that she’s allowed to make it what she wants. So even if you think that her choice to exchange her engagement ring for something more vintage-looking is ridiculous, try to let her make her own decisions about things that seem important to her.
Don’t Make Her Choose Between You and Her Fiance
As your daughter’s mother, you might be her go-to person to help with planning the wedding. However, this doesn’t mean that everything’s up to just you and her. According to Susan Pevaroff Berschler, a contributor to BridalGuide.com, the last thing you want to do is make your daughter choose between something you want and something her fiance wants. So while it might require you to hold your tongue or make some sacrifices, never drive a wedge between your daughter and her fiance.
If you’re about to start helping your daughter plan her upcoming wedding, consider using the tips mentioned above to help you do this successfully.