What to Do if You Don’t Know What to Do With Your Difficult Child
When you become a parent, your entire world changes. People say that they never understood how much their parents loved them until the very moment they had their own child. There is really nothing else like it. This is why it’s one of the most painful things that can ever happen to you when you see that your child is not doing well. Everything in you wants your child to succeed. You want them to have everything you never had. You want them to have everything you had and more.
When your child goes through tough times or makes decisions that affect their lives in a negative way, it’s a reflection on you and your parenting. It’s not an easy pill to swallow. In the end, your child will do what they will do, but if whether you’re just beginning on the parenting road, or you’ve been a parent for twenty years, here are things you can do if you don’t know what to do with your difficult child:
Hard times can either bring a person close to God or push a person away. The way you respond is your choice. However, when you have a difficult child, it’s awfully nice to not have to take all of the stress and responsibility on yourself all of the time. When you have a faith base and you can believe that God is for you and your child, it lightens the load. If you start with prayer, things will get easier. Once you’ve gone there and gotten your own emotions and priorities in order, you can try out some other methods.
Counseling is a very valuable and underutilized resource. Did you know that decisions that were made by your great, great grandfather affect you? It’s weird to think about, but just as it is true in the natural that if your great, great grand daddy squandered away all of his life savings and was an alcoholic and your father made this judgement in his heart that he wasn’t going to be like his father, that he would be more likely to do exactly the same things he abhorred growing up.
You see it all the time. Generations of drug abuse, heart disease, pregnancy at a young age…attitudes and blessings and curses are passed down through the generations. If you’re seeing that your child is being abnormally difficult, seek counseling and look into your generations to see if there is a pattern that needs to be addressed and worked through.
Only Medicate As A Last Resort
In today’s society, people are too eager for a quick fix. They want the problem to go away, but you can’t put a bandaid on a war wound. If you put your child on medication for depression or pain, or if you teach them that it’s okay to turn to substances to console their grief and problems, you’re setting them up for a life that will teach them to fail. Medication is a great resource, but it shouldn’t always be the first thing you turn to. You have to heal the roots if you want a healthy tree.